Sam Smith: Gay dating apps are “ruining romance”

Sam Smith: Gay dating apps are “ruining romance”

BRITISH singer Sam Smith has publicly slammed dating-apps, urging people to delete Tinder and Grindr from their phones as it is “ruining romance”.

Speaking with the UK’s Metro the 22-year-old said: “‘No offence to people who go on Tinder but I just feel like it’s ruining romance, I really do.

“We’re losing the art of conversation and being able to go and speak to people and you’re swiping people.”

In the same interview, he also said how there was no substitute for chatting people up in the flesh and said that looks count for nothing – especially online.

“From my experience the most beautiful people I’ve been on dates with are the dumbest, so why would I swipe people who are ‘unattractive’ when I could potentially fall in love with them?,” he said.

“Stop Tinder and Grindr.”

Do you agree with Sam Smith? Are dating apps ruining romance?

 

 

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3 responses to “Sam Smith: Gay dating apps are “ruining romance””

  1. Here is a sum down from Gay Ok Australias point of view. We are now in the 21st century, and in such we have access to APPs such as Grindr, Tinder, Scruff ETC. These are a great avenue at finding who are single in the area. We disagree with Couples going on apps looking for 3rd parties to join in and we also disagree with “hook ups” These apps should focus on people who want to make new friends, find love or even find a date for occasions.
    We find it wrong when a conversation is literally “lets F***”. The world of dating on internet based apps is a dangerous world full of creeps and people posing as gay people just to get a laugh. As far as communication goes, it is up to the user! Tinder is a great app for matching up common interests to help you find your match which in any social situation sparks a conversation.

    I say if you are going to use these apps, just remember there are people out there who want a serious relationship, and we urge you to go on dates and find the right person.

  2. No – I don’t agree with this at all – especially as a HIV positive person.
    Most of these apps have the capability of being able to disclose your status – which all of mine do. That way, if someone does contact me, they know.
    At least then I don’t have to face that ‘awkward’ moment after chatting to someone in a bar for a couple of hours, maybe even going on a date with them or whatever, when I do reveal my status, only to have rejection shoved into my face because of my positive state.
    For people like me – these apps can help cut through a lot of that stigma and bullshit – and trust me, there is still soooo much of it in our community.
    And apart from all that, being the old dinosaur that I am, I can remember the old days all too well, long before Grindr, Gaydar, Hornet, Recon or any of these sites were around and how the only real option you had was to go to a bar to meet people.
    Trust me, it was the norm, even back then, to see a pretty face across the bar and ask it home – there often wasn’t too much conversation going on before sex happened.
    From memory, those conversations normally occurred the day after a night of (if all went well) fantastic sex – and that’s where and when the real conversations and perhaps ‘romance and dating’ might begin.
    Lets face it, as gay men, we have always been rather promiscuous – and what’s more – that is one of the things that people of my age fought hard to have the right to do back then – the fight to be who we are – as promiscuous as that may be, and not to have to apologise for it.
    One of the things that bugs me today is how the community seems to be betraying those hard won standards and are hell bent on becoming so homogenized into society, that there is no such thing as a ‘gay’ identity anymore.
    I mean, I’ll fight any day for someone’s right to get married, but for the life of me, I can’t see why anyone in this country would want to follow such an outdated, archaic institution.
    Personally, I like the freedom to have a polyamarous or openly sexual lifestyle, choosing more than one partner, if that is what I wish at the time (which, by its own definition, the institution of marriage forbids)
    In short, I see no real difference in our old behaviours of picking up in bars that we used to do back in the days before on-line hook up sites existed – as I said, often back then there was no more conversing going on in those bars (the music was always too loud to talk anyway!!) before you ended up in a bed with your legs in the air, than there is in an on-line hook up:
    “Hey”
    “Hey yourself”
    “Your hot, man”
    “Hmmm, so are you”
    “Wanna go home and fuck”
    “Hell, yeah!”
    And off you’d go, back to his, yours, or a sex club like Club 80.
    Hook up sites are no more than an modern translation of the the way we used to hook up in the flesh in bars.