Former Sex and the City star and openly gay actress Cynthia Nixon has revealed that she believes being gay was a choice for her.
During an interview with The New York Times about her new Broadway show, a revival of the Margaret Edson play Wit, Nixon said it was a belief that no one could take away from her.
“I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice,” she said.
“I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me.”
Nixon said she believed a certain section of the gay and lesbian community is concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then people could ‘opt out’.
“I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not,” she said.
“As you can tell, I am very annoyed about this issue. Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate.
“I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”
Nixon and her female partner Christine Marinoni have been together since 2004 and announced their engagement at a marriage equality rally in New York in 2009.
They had a child together last year and Nixon has two children from her previous relationship with English professor Danny Mozes. They split in 2003.