A gay man in Melbourne has disinvited his No voting parents to his future same-sex wedding in an emotional open letter.
Actor Barnaby Reiter posted the letter in the hopes that it would change their minds, to no avail.
“Please know that if you choose to tick the ‘no’ box you will not be invited to my wedding,” he wrote.
“Don’t get me wrong. I want you there. No child hopes their parents won’t come to the happiest day of their life.
“But if you don’t support my decision to marry a man that I love and want to spend the rest of my life with then I refuse to feel unsafe and unsupported on my big day.
“I refuse to constantly look over my shoulder to see if you’re okay and above all else I refuse to flinch when I’m asked to ‘now kiss my husband’ for fear of making you uncomfortable.”
Reiter went on to ensure that his parents knew the ramifications of voting No in the postal survey.
“When someone asks ‘do you want me to give you a lift’ it will be your responsibility to explain to them why you’re not coming,” he wrote.
“When the photos come out, when people talk about it for the rest of your lives, when your grandkids from your straight children ask ‘why weren’t you at Barney and Brad Pitt’s wedding’ you will have to tell them that you made a choice in 2017 and had to live with that.
“When the big day comes and you two are left home alone I want you to stop and notice the feeling you have – do you feel left out? Do you feel lonely and unloved?
“I want you to realise that that is exactly how I feel right now and that is exactly what you’re supporting.”
Voting in the postal survey has closed, with results expected to be announced next Wednesday 15 November.
An open letter to my “No” voting parents ✉️ • It hasn’t been an easy time here in the Reiter family but this is a letter I gave to my parents in the hopes they would change their minds – to no success. I hesitated sharing this but thought it might help anyone else feeling similar in what has become a truly dark time in Australian history. I know I have the love and support of my extended family and friends. Always here if anyone needs to talk ❤️💛💚💙💜