There are so many unusual feelings after a break up -” from anger, loneliness and regret to relief and contentment. Sometimes these feelings are so varied we lack the ability to remain rational.

For many of us we know that once it’s over, it’s over but sometimes it’s a lot harder to let go.

There are many reasons why people go back to their past lovers and on many occasions, it can be traced back to alcohol. That social drug we love so much, a mood changing beverage that may alter your very way of thinking.

For anyone who has ever walked away from a testing relationship, opinions have been formed and expectations may have never been met. Combining these perceptions with the way we behave on alcohol may lead to many regrettable actions.

There are mixed theories behind getting drunk, sometimes we tell truths that we may have been too scared to admit in a sober state. Yet other times it may lead to you contacting your ex to say things that may be fabricated from the misleading senses of being intoxicated.

Whatever the reasons were behind a break up, alcohol has a tendency to change a person’s viewpoint completely until you are checking your phone every five seconds just fighting the urge to message the person you have recently separated from.

Sometimes it leads to drunken sex that makes people believe that things were not as bad as they actually thought. This misconception can have the regrettable act of rekindle the already doomed relationship. It is obvious that when ending a relationship we feel lonelier than ever.

We possess an apparent amount of guilt for things said or done and there is a significant feeling of grief. No matter how much these feelings suppress you from being happy, there will be a time that these emotions fade to the point where we are strong enough to make us emotionally available again.

Nevertheless, it is important to embrace any and all of your strength to resist going back to your ex, especially when drunk.

Instead of evaluating what could have been, go out and celebrate the gift of single life. Have fun with friends and take risks with strangers.

If you have the urge to contact your ex, walk up to the nearest girl you attracted to and introduce yourself. It’s more important to move forwards than walking backwards.

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