It’s been 10 years since I first set foot inside a sauna, and in that time I’ve seen some remarkable things.

I’ve seen friends in these places: friends I never wanted to see naked, friends I sort of did want to see naked and, once, a friend I had thought was straight.

I’ve seen some hot men, some ugly men and some nobodies with awesome bodies.

I’ve seen lots of queens, a couple of real princesses, and quite a few blokes whom you would never guess were gay.

I’ve even seen a few TV stars, and, if plied with sufficient quantities of alcohol, I can tell you what their penises look like. In detail.

I’ve seen some funny things happen, some sweetly romantic things happen, and a few scenes that recalled the degradation of Ancient Rome.

I’ve seen good behaviour, bad behaviour and a lot of stuff that was just freaking weird.

But I’ve never seen anything that has disturbed me so much as something I saw on a visit to a sauna last week.

I was sitting in the steamroom, minding my own business and watching two guys in front of me having a fuck. So far, so good, right?

I’d witnessed this scene develop over the course of a few minutes: the cruising, the signs of obvious interest, the big first move and the rapid advance into hot and heavy action.

I’d seen the bottom guy do a quick exit from the steamroom to fetch a condom, and return. Before long, the two guys were fucking with happy abandon.

But what happened next really shook me. I saw the top guy pull out and tear off the condom, before sticking his dick back in and continue fucking.

It took me a minute to process what I had just seen, and it took the bottom guy about the same amount of time to realise what had happened. Without a word, he extricated himself from the top guy, and walked out of the steamroom.

I sat there, stunned, not knowing what to do, or say, so in the end I said nothing and I did nothing. The sexy vibe I’d been feeling that night disappeared immediately.

I’d seen barebacking before, but I’d never seen a top guy disregard a bottom guy’s clear choice for using a condom and thus wilfully and recklessly endanger the bottom guy’s health. It’s something that I hope I never see again.

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