BFFs: Best Friends F*#king

We all have our little group of friends, our own entourage and dynamic that joins people together through a collective interest or behaviour.

Whether your close group of friends includes only lesbians or whether it’s an ensemble of heteros and homos, certain things may impact on this group dynamic. Your friends are those who know you best, from how overly emotional you are during that time of the month to how hypocritical you can be when judging others. Yet your friends are those who are always there for you during the good times (after a couple of drinks) and the bad (when waking up with the unavoidable hangover). This may include the death-defying act of becoming intimate with a friend.

So what happens when one of your closest friends becomes your sexual partner? Now even though I despise using the word partner, I will proclaim, through my outspoken pessimism, how risky it is to become involved with a friend. Sure you know each other well enough already and you believe that this might work to your advantage. The one thing to commit to your memory box is the fact that because you are friends, all your mutual friends will be affected by the future happenings of your relationship. Though you may be thinking that you and your friend will live happily ever after, it usually ends as messily as Lindsay Lohan’s career.

You may be thinking I’m being a little harsh with my opinions and hell, maybe I am. In spite of that, whenever you argue or have your little lezzy spats you usually enjoy the venting to your friends. This is now impossible since your friends are also close with your current girlfriend. As the mystery unfolds we see that it is a more difficult relationship than with any random girl you’ve picked up from a dyke night.

Before you enter your friend’s hot pocket, think again. Hook up with a stranger, join a soccer team or make a pinksofa profile. Just don’t shit where you eat. Yes, that sounds disgusting and a little visual but unfortunately it is the truth. BFFs can be something way more special, especially when there is no messy physicality getting in the way. I mean, look at Oprah and Gail, the worlds most recognisable BBFs, there’s no sexual interaction there -¦ apparently. They are those supporting you after a separation, not those who are arguing with you during the break-up. If you happen to be foolish enough to fall for a friend, talk about it, think about the risks before the misleading benefits.

I understand that this might not be everyone’s view on becoming intimate with a friend. I know that I might not be wise or mature at times, but I do value the people around me and it’s important not to reduce a friendship to rubble.