Ready, set, go find your co-parenting couple
Gay Dads NSW have found a novel way to approach the problem of connecting prospective fathers with eager mothers -” speed dating for co-parents.
Organisers are gauging people’s interest in a speed dating session to introduce couples who want to have children.
There are a number of guys and gals who have made the comment -˜how do you find a potential co-parent partner?’ It’s hard to do and there aren’t really good registers, and one couple commented on the process that it was like dating again, Gay Dads coordinator Anthony Brien explained.
The hardest thing is finding people who are possibly compatible, before the long process after that to work out whether you guys are potentially the right people to make a lifelong commitment.
So we thought one of the things that could be interesting would be to get 20 or 30 lesbian couples and 20 or 30 male couples together to meet -” it might give them a few leads to take the process forward. It’s also meant to be a bit of an icebreaker because it can be quite a daunting process.
The sessions would give couples the opportunity to meet and discuss matters for ten minutes. Brien recommended that couples could bring a quick checklist of questions to make the most of the opportunity.
People would need to think about the points that are significant to them and make or break with someone you want to co-parent with.
That’d be things like what level of parenting do you expect to have? Where do you live? How do you want to raise the kid?
Brien added that Gay Dads could draw up their own list of suggested questions based on recommendations from previous parenting couples.
No date has been set for a co-parenting speed dating session, but interest is being registered.
info: To get in touch with Gay Dads NSW or to register interest for co-parenting speed dating contact Anthony on 0405 147 968.
I have to say John – we used to be skeptical about some of the more novel ways of dating (online etc), but have found that many of our clients now find true love in all sorts of ways. It seems that various ways of finding an initial connection can be helpful to many people who would otherwise remain cut-off.
Is “speed dating” really the best way to find the best co-parent for a child? It trivialises such an important decision as having a child with someone. Co-parenting is not “dating” – it’s a life long commitment to the child and the co-parent. I’ve found Gay Dads NSW to put on some informative talks in the past, I hope this is just small glitch in the great work they do.