Having the safe sex conversation with a casual hook up can sometimes be a little bit awkward. When should you bring it up? How do you bring it up? Who should bring it up? Talking about condoms and water based lube when you are in the heat of the moment can sometimes be a mood killer. However, there are a few simple tips and techniques that can help make the safe sex chat easier.
Before we get started it is important to remember that you should not expect your new playmate to bring up the topic of safe sex. He might be embarrassed or he may never feel like it’s the right time to discuss safe sex so it is your responsibility to talk about condoms and lube so that you can both play safely and have fun.
One simple tip is to always have safe packs (i.e., condoms and lube packets) with you. If you carry a few safe packs in your pocket, wallet or bag then all you have to say is ‘I’ve got condoms with me’ and your new playmate will know that safe sex is on the agenda. Furthermore this means that whether you head back to his place, your place or are out and about you will always be prepared, and that you won’t have to stop when in the throws of passion to talk about safe sex.
If you don’t have safe packs on you and you head back to your place another simple technique is to bring the condoms and lube out and put them in plain sight. This lets your new playmate know that you are going to play safely and does so before you get into the swing of things. Furthermore, having condoms and lube handy allows you to easily reach over to grab a condom when things start to get hot and heavy.
Some men can find it hard to maintain an erection when they use condoms. This can often be because they find putting on condom to not be a sensual experience or because the condom does not fit properly. By using your mouth to put a condom on or by putting a bit of lube on his penis before putting the condom on can help increase the sensation. Furthermore, by having a variety of different sized condoms available you can find one that will accommodate your partner, and the size of his endowment.
These simple tips and techniques can help make the sometimes awkward safe sex conversation easier and at times more pleasurable. Just remember that safe sex can be fun for everyone so make sure you and your partner put it on before you get it on.
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