After a very public and emotional whirlwind love affair early this year, I have been lying low on the dating scene. Saying goodbye to someone you shared something so special with was hard but has helped me grow as a person.

I have dipped my toe once again in the dating lake.

I’ve met someone I have made a connection with. Here is what has got me in a tailspin — he is completely opposite to me. When I say chalk and cheese, I really mean chalk and cheese.

He is a lawyer who works with the government, the top end of corporate. He’s constantly working, is very driven and has questions about everything, needing to know how everything works. He has been in two gay bars on Oxford St twice, preferring to have work drinks in the city or he sits at home reading at the weekend. He lives without a television or radio but listens to music or chanting monks.

Can two completely opposite people work?  We seem to be in fits of laughter on the lounge when we’re together, chatting about nothing or he lets me know what is happening in the business sector, which I tune out halfway through as I look into his blue eyes.

Is it true, do opposites really attract? Should I have listened to Paula Abdul years ago as she danced around like a fool with a cartoon cat?

He is astonished at how many people I know, walking down the street or even in his building. He constantly asks, “Do you know every person?”

Maybe this is exactly what someone who works in nightclubs almost every night of the week needs, someone to ground them and slow them down.

Sitting for hours on his lounge, deep in conversation, each of us learning about the other’s world, has been amazing. We’ve each skated around the edge of the other’s world many times but never needed or wanted to dive right in.

Don’t hold your breath, hoping to see me in a suit. Watching someone else get up and put on a suit is enough for me right now.

At the moment opposites attract and I hope they attract for a while longer. Oh, he is the Chalky and I’m the Cheesy (minds out of the gutter, boys).

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