By: Matthew Csaborryi
Zac Efron. His name is known by virtually every gay man, and for obvious reason -“ or is it so obvious after all?
Ask any gay man what the source of Zac’s popularity is and you will probably get a response like because he’s hot!
But I’m not sure it’s so simple. After all, psychology reminds us how often we do not know all the reasons behind all that we truly think and feel. If it’s true that Zac’s popularity is based solely on his good looks, then why aren’t other Hollywood hunks as popular as he is?
I think Zac’s popularity has everything to do with the character he is most famous for playing: Troy Bolton (High School Musical). What makes this character so appealing is the way he treats his leading lady, Gabriella (Vanessa Hudgens).
Take a look at Troy and Gabriella’s relationship. Troy is the understanding boyfriend that every girl and gay guy would want -“ he is trustworthy, sincere, affectionate, committed and faithful. Troy is the ultimate Mr. Right.
Even when trust is broken in the relationship, after Gabriella overhears Troy saying things to his basketball team mates that undermine her, Troy accepts responsibility and delivers a heartfelt apology -“ without excuses.
That is what makes Zac (Troy) so darn popular. Troy Bolton is not perfect (he makes one huge mistake in every HSM movie). However, what separates him from most of us is that in each circumstance he reflects honestly on his behavior, and does what it takes to make things right.
I have only been -˜out’ and about for the last 18 months, but in that time I have used my skills as a budding psychologist to make some observations about us gay guys and our relationships. I have found that most men I have spoken to, deep down (sometimes very deep), want to find -˜Mr Right’.
So let’s all stop pretending that we don’t all want our -˜happily ever after’. Everyone -“ absolutely everyone wants to be loved unconditionally -“ and probably with a guy who has a lot of the traits that Zac Efron portrays in High School Musical.
The sad truth is that most men don’t believe that -˜Mr Right’ actually exists, and most people think that to live -˜Happily Ever After’ is an unrealistic expectation. But why is it unrealistic? After all, if you’re the perfect partner, why wouldn’t there be another perfect man out there for you?
People often don’t think this man exists because they are not that man themselves -“ thinking this way causes them to lower their standards of behavior and expectation, which in turn lowers their chances of finding their -˜Mr Right’.
While the perfect man may not exist, the qualities existent in the ultimate Mr Right are absolutely obtainable. Do you have it within yourself to display the qualities of an ultimate -˜Mr Right?’ Are you a person that -˜Mr Right’ would want to be with?
It’s definitely worth a look-see.
Matthew Csabonyi is a third-year psychology student