This year I have thrown myself into the dating world, doing everything short of carrying a huge sign flashing “Available!”.
For many years I was comfortable being labelled ‘the funny friend’ and living vicariously through my friends’ sexual adventures.
But recently I have been getting my jiggie on with a new gym routine and new look, and boys now seem to turn their heads when I walk into a room.
But I have a problem I need readers’ advice about.
Four or five times now, I have gone on a date with a boy. Lots of snuggles and cuddles on the lounge end with a great goodnight kiss and an agreement to see each other again.
Text messages and phone calls follow, and before long we meet again for a romantic evening, with a bit of rolling around naked (wrestling only, I promise).
This happens a couple more times, but when I pull him up and say, where is this going, he says, “We are just friends”.
Now I’m not asking for a ring, Beyonce, but do friends now do that now?
I don’t get naked, kiss, cuddle and snuggle with my friends, but should I? Is this common practice now? Have I missed the memo?
I always felt there was a line and once you crossed it, things became something more than friendship.
I try to share my intimate moments with someone special and I’ve always thought it’s best not to complicate things with your mates.
But any good relationship should have a friendship base from the start, so maybe that’s what I’m missing.
Surely there must be rules. How many of these special friends can you have? You could find yourself bed-hopping around your whole circle before you know it! I’m not sure I want that many people to see me totally nude.
Am I being a prude or should I be out there sharing the love? I’m very confused about the whole situation.
If you have any advice on how to deal with future “just friends” scenarios or if you have a sex/mate relationship that is working, let me know.