Can 19-year-olds ever be taken seriously in a relationship with an older partner? This question has been weighing on my mind since a guy I had been seeing decided to suddenly end our long-term dating relationship.
His reason for breaking contact was simply that I was at a different stage in my life, one where I want to go party and hang with my friends, etc etc. You know the story.
But what does being in a different stage in your life even mean? So I go out and party with my friends, so do many people in their 40s but I don’t call them immature. As long as you want the same thing then obviously that means you have both reached a common goal and level of understanding for what you both want in life, right?
You want to go watch opera? I’ve always wanted to see Carmen! You want to sit at home and drink wine over pasta? I’ll cook!
The whole reason I wanted a relationship in the first place is because getting drunk at ARQ every weekend gets boring around the 400th time, so a quiet night at home with someone I love would not only be cheaper, but would be far more enjoyable than walking home with whats-his-face and the taste of Bacardi and menthol cigarettes in my mouth.
One of the reasons I date older guys is because for the most part, they have their lives sorted. They have a job, maybe a uni degree, a nice group of friends, and most can hold a conversation about politics (a must in my relationships).
Most younger guys simply don’t have, or can’t do, any of that. But is it so hard to comprehend that maybe, just maybe, there are one or two guys under the age of 21 who want to have a serious and committed relationship?
Don’t answer that.
By JESSE MATHESON