Meeting someone is quite difficult. Meeting someone under pressured pretences is another story.
I’m not sure how many of you have been on a blind date but my first one was very regrettable.
When being set up on a date, it’s usually by a friend or college that knows someone who will be ‘perfect’ for you. In my case, a work college obviously thought I was not only alone but I was verging on being lonely.
I must first note that I like the idea of meeting new people and this gave me the opportunity to attempt to impress someone. As I started to get ready, nothing was going my way. My hair didn’t want move and that perfect outfit was nowhere to be found. In all honestly, I was utterly nervous, mostly because I had no idea of what to talk about.
As we went out as a group there was a sense of support, yet in another way it made me quite reserved.
We all know about the many urban legends of the traumatic experiences that may derive from these set ups. My ordeal comes not from the girl but from myself.
Attempting to impress someone I hardly knew in front of an audience of people definitely got the better of me. So even though the date was ‘blind’ so to speak, there was an obvious site for a lack of attraction.
Of course I could say in different circumstances I may have had a better chance, but I honestly think that with blind dates usually give you only one chance to make an impression. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.
Either way I think we should take the risk, if it doesn’t work out then at least you’ve tried. If not, then you have nothing to regret. It can only be put back to learning and experience.
For me, I barely spoke and instead of coming off as nervous, I seemed rude or dull. Noticeably, in the cluster of people only half were gay and the instigator of this ‘date’ was a person that in fact only thought she was perfect because the other girl was also gay.
So is that why we had been set up?
I’ve thought about the blind dating situation -”how do people know someone perfect for you. Is it a feeling or was an event such as this put down to having a mere matching sexual orientation?
In this situation I felt that it would have been the same if someone had red hair and I tried to introduce them to another redhead. Attraction is something indescribable and no matter what a persons intentions or reasons behind organising for two people to meet they may actually come off as being close minded or offensive.
I’m not saying that blind dates can’t be successful, they may actually be a way for you to build up the courage to impress the girl you would usually be too scared to talk to and even though my experience wasn’t a successful one, it doesn’t mean I wouldn’t try it again.
I know that sometimes all dates, whether prearranged by a third party or instigated by the individual, can be a hit or miss. Sometimes they end in disaster and other times it could lead to something more.
As long as you are make an effort and be yourself there shouldn’t be any room for regret.