Hayes no fan of dumbed-down gays
Since coming out in 2006, ex-Savage Garden singer Darren Hayes has been increasingly outspoken about issues of sexuality, and his latest comments during an interview with UK gay magazine GT may ruffle some feathers. When asked his opinions about the representation of gay people in popular culture, Hayes said, ‘I have a whole issue about mainstream pop and certainly television culture, and how damaging that is in terms of dumbing down being gay.
All those cliches about being gay I think are really limiting whereas in reality it’s just a trait, it’s like eye colour or hair colour, it’s a physical trait. Being gay is somehow an indulgent choice? It infuriates me. You’re either (UK comedian) Graham Norton or George Michael getting arrested in parks and I’m neither of those things.
When asked what he thought of popular gay sitcom Will and Grace, Hayes let fly with a further spray.
I think it appeals to the lowest common denominator that basically there are two types of gay men, the slut, or there’s the straight acting guy. Neither of these things have anything to do with penises, or cocks in mouths or any of the things that are related to being gay.
What about the gay men who come on to a straight guy like me, and the general tenet is, if only you would let me give you a BJ then you would see the light and become gay – as if life is nothing more than oral sex. I used to have lesbian roommates and I would go out to the gay clubs with them, and the number of times I encountered this (after they were told I was not gay) was really annoying…not unlike the straight guys who think any lesbian would change if only they would let him bed her down.
Lesbians have a whole other issue – they never seem to be actually gay, they just have a fling and then magically become heterosexual when the right man comes along… and this seems to be what people think a lesbian is – a lost heterosexual girl waiting to be rescued by some boof head man.
The Mainstream Media only prints what It like to its own Glorification,and about us,they don’t want to print about gay men who look and act straight and work,Pay taxes, and mind their own business.They print gossip and gossip sells.
To the Mainstream media,gay men drive convertible Pink Automatic VW beetles are camp as a row of tents and if their not Dragqueens or Potential Pedophiles we are considered to be in the closet,And if your straight acting and people know about you your still laughed about and ridiculed .I sometimes think that its mainly own own fault,Mardi Gra started as Political March with the Main Agenda of equality ,but now its just bums & tits in T.V Screens with a message of “Look at us were Freaks” No wonder the parents are scared shitless when the MG is on the box.
I agree with Darren 100%. How dare we be represented in the media as wearing flashy scarves and spiffy hairstyles! Luv that three quarter pose dazza, it’s delish! :p
He is right and spot on the mark!!!
Why are gays stereotyped by the media alot?
1. I never wore feathers and outfits like Bruno
2. I never went to “the Sleeze ball”
3. I am not promiscoious
Most gays in fact commit to long-term relationships, unlike heterosexuals like the South Carolina Govonor who cheated on his wife, with another woman down in Argentina and he is the one who continually says [and quotes] “gays are a big threat to family values and marriage in particular as an insitution, which should be between a hold union of one man and one woman as husband and wife” [unquote] – when he should talk about himself (he is the one himself who is a BIG threat to family values).
Example:
What about a 40 year old gay man living in Dubbo, has a fast car, is struggling on a morguage, looking after two kids with his partner of 23 years?????
Gays don’t always live in Oxford Street or in the City or even go to MGs.
Gays are NOT a threat to family values.
Outlaw divorce I should say to save family values – NOT define marriage as between a man and a woman!
In fact hereto – gays will STREATHEN marriage as an insitution, if SSM is ever legal.
I tend to agree with him.
Why does being gay mean you are viewed as a clubbing, multi-dating, gossip queen?!
I know its not viewed this by everyone, but the media certainly doesn’t help when it comes to getting rid of gay stereotypes, lol.