Are you out to all your work colleagues? Do you get flowers from your partner in the office on your birthday and proudly say, “Oh, they are from my boyfriend!”?
Or do you gently sweep your sexuality under the rug to simply get through the day without drawing too much attention to yourself?
I’ve never really felt the need to come out in the workplace. Besides writing for queer publications, and working in queer-operated businesses, I also work at a store selling luxury luggage. While I’ve been working there for almost nine months, I’ve never really felt compelled to talk about my sexuality.
That goes for all my other jobs outside of the queer community. I don’t think I’m scared to come out — more just that I’m there to make some moolah and get out of there.
And I would prefer to not really speak to my traditional family man boss about how I’m hungover on a Thursday afternoon because I got drunk at Stonewall the night before.
It also comes in handy when you get placed with a straight-as-nails co-worker who likes to talk about, and do, things that you simply can’t do with a girl around, and which he might not feel comfortable to do around a gay man.
It is advantageous for me to not disclose my sexuality at my workplace, and so that is why I do it.
I do not feel oppressed or discriminated against, and I feel comfortable separating my work from the other sectors of my life.
But, of course, if you do wish to disclose your sexuality, go for it! Coming out at work, as in life, can set you free.
By JESSE MATHESON