John Mayger has been helping lesbian couples conceive their rainbow babies for the past five years. As a straight Christian man he sees it as being akin to donating blood.
As a known donor he also gets to see his brood of rainbow children grow while forming close bonds with their mothers.
It’s such a great thing, helping people achieve their dreams, and then there’s the first time that you get to hold that baby in your arms. It’s such an honour, Mayger, who decided to become a donor after going through the trauma of his ex-wife’s miscarriages, told SSO.
That really made me re-evaluate how I saw the two children that I already had, and I realised what a blessing they were. I just thought, how can I help other people to experience the joys of starting a family?
At the time, Mayger had no gay or lesbian friends so he decided to come out in support of rainbow families in a big way -“ by joining their Mardi Gras float. Five years on, his rainbow family brings him endless amounts of joy.
I chose to be a known donor -“ that can mean seeing the child only four times a year, or it can mean having more involvement if the mothers would like. Or, like in the case of a couple I helped, my interaction with the child will be through photos and via the webcam, Mayger said.
It’s not so much for my benefit, though I do greatly enjoy the contact I have with my gift children. It is for the child’s benefit, so they can know their biological heritage.
It is such an honour to have these mums choose you to be their donor. And it is just wonderful to help these couples who have so much love, who want to have children and who have a right to have children.
That’s why these changes to the laws are so great. They recognise that these couples are just like any other suburban family. They’re just women who want to have a mortgage and a home and a family, just like any heterosexual couple.